John Joseph, in his book “The PMA Effect” talks about what he “The Enemy Mind”. Summed up in this paragrph from his book “…Think about the times you gave up on something difficult and analyze why. Nine times out of ten it was the voice in your head conning and deceiving you”
The Enemy Mind is what Dr Steve Peters calls your “inner chimp”. So it’s the part of the brain that acts impulsively, kicks in fight or flight mode, takes the path of least resistance, believe its protecting but really it is neglecting.
The Enemy Mind and the Inner Chimp are what Freud called the id. So in Freudian terms, id, takes actions on impulse.
Where am I going with this?
Well recently I was tested. And I was found wanting. A friend of mine made an observation, which in his head he was taking as an attempt to help out, and my enemy mind interpreted as an insult. And I lost my shit. To put it politely. And I felt deflated afterwards, truly broken. I had let stress* get to me, and let uncertainty and anxiety about the future fill my mind. And I snapped.
In reflection, it was over nothing, and if I had talked through what he had said it would have amounted to nothing. In fact it would have had a benefit to my business. And it has had a benefit to my business now!
And so many lessons learned in hindsight. It got me thinking of the phrase “Pride comes before a fall” words which you have no doubt heard, and dismissed as just an old saying. I did anyway! But so much wisdom packed into one phrase! And it brings us back to The Enemy Mind!
In my head, I went on the defensive straight away because I saw my achievements being diminished. This wasn’t the intent, but BAM! My Pride led to me blowing up in rage, and then I had fallen.
Damn this Enemy Mind.
Anyways, lessons learned, have an awesome day!
*Stress and uncertainty, meaning the current pandemic situation in the UK where we do not know from week to week whether the government is going to close down which business sector. It’s crazy, it’s unfair, but as I cannot do anything about, I must keep on keeping on, and concentrate on the things I can do, not anything which is outside of my control.