I was listening to a podcast this morning, and the host made the point that with COVID and lockdown, many of us are suffering with stress and depression because of our self identification with our jobs, our self appointed roles. And that’s a very long sentence! In more ways than one!
But the point struck home with me. More to do with my job, but I guess the point to be made is easier with the following.
At points in my life I was a punk, I was a skater, amongst other things and I self identified with these “tribes”.
I still listen to some punk, but listen to a lot of other genres too, but I’m a lot older now and have no need to self identify with that tribe. No more scene politics, no scene police, just enjoying music for what it is.
It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I’ve chosen not to self identify with something that causes conflict, is that a better way of saying it?
This could apply equally to football, to clubs, associations, area codes, whatever.
Ego is the enemy.
“It is our own opinions that disturb us. Take away these opinions then, and resolve to dismiss your judgment about an act as if it were something grievous, and your anger is gone.” – Marcus Aurelius
Took a while to get back to this thought! So much has been going on recently!
So I saw a post by Steve Caballero over on Instagram, and it summed up perfectly the point I was trying to make in that last post…
People see the end result – they are the success and the skill obtained through patience, hard work, the grind, hustle, practise, planning, self sacrifice and so on.
And they ascribe it to ‘talent”
Is there a reason for this? Maybe.
Could it be because people know deep down inside what it takes to be a success, to be seen as a talented individual, and they don’t have it in them? Or they aren’t prepared to sacrifice so much to, in their eyes, “make it”
It’s all within our reach, as Marcus Aurelius once stated “Because a thing seems difficult for you, do not think it impossible for anyone to accomplish.”
How lucky are dogs! “They have no preconceived notions of their limitations”! And that is exactly who we should see our own lives! Children have no concept of their limitations until it’s drummed into them, but imagine the possibilities without limitations!
Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also. – Marcus Aurelius
Of course if your strength is unequal right now, that becomes a goal to work towards so you can achieve your aim, but limitations are in the “enemy mind”.
In one of the Napoleon Hill books, possibly the Law of Success, there is a formula he asks you to copy and write down. I have this on the wall in my house, in the kitchen and my daughter has a copy in her bedroom.
“I believe my mind is my own.
I believe I can take possession of my own mind,
I believe I can direct and own my emotions, moods, intellect, tendencies, attitudes and habits with the intention of developing a positive mental attitude.
I will develop a Positive Mental Attitude.“
On typing this, I’m reflecting on how this reads almost as a prayer, and what is a prayer but a statement of focus and faith?
PMA is taking control of your own mindset and directing towards your own focussed intention. It is not a wish.
PMA is taking decisive actions towards plans. taking advantage of opportunities as they come up. It is taking mistakes and using thme as lessons. Turning obstacles into opportunities to learn. Learning every day.
“Don’t let your mind control you. Control your mind.” – Jock Willink
“If belief consists in an emotional reaction of the entire man on an object, how can we believe at will? We cannot control our emotions…. But gradually our will can lead us to the same results by a very simple method: we need only in cold blood act as if the thing in question were real, and keep acting as if it were real, and it will infallibly end by growing into such a connection with our life that it will become real. It will become so knit with habit and emotion that our interests in it will be those which characterize belief” – William James
How do you exercise will power? By acting “as if the thing in question were real, and keep acting as if it were real, and it will infallibly end by growing into such a connection with our life that it will become real“