I was listening to a podcast this morning, and the host made the point that with COVID and lockdown, many of us are suffering with stress and depression because of our self identification with our jobs, our self appointed roles. And that’s a very long sentence! In more ways than one!
But the point struck home with me. More to do with my job, but I guess the point to be made is easier with the following.
At points in my life I was a punk, I was a skater, amongst other things and I self identified with these “tribes”.
I still listen to some punk, but listen to a lot of other genres too, but I’m a lot older now and have no need to self identify with that tribe. No more scene politics, no scene police, just enjoying music for what it is.
It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I’ve chosen not to self identify with something that causes conflict, is that a better way of saying it?
This could apply equally to football, to clubs, associations, area codes, whatever.
Ego is the enemy.
“It is our own opinions that disturb us. Take away these opinions then, and resolve to dismiss your judgment about an act as if it were something grievous, and your anger is gone.” – Marcus Aurelius