I was listening to a podcast this morning, and the host made the point that with COVID and lockdown, many of us are suffering with stress and depression because of our self identification with our jobs, our self appointed roles. And that’s a very long sentence! In more ways than one!
But the point struck home with me. More to do with my job, but I guess the point to be made is easier with the following.
At points in my life I was a punk, I was a skater, amongst other things and I self identified with these “tribes”.
I still listen to some punk, but listen to a lot of other genres too, but I’m a lot older now and have no need to self identify with that tribe. No more scene politics, no scene police, just enjoying music for what it is.
It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I’ve chosen not to self identify with something that causes conflict, is that a better way of saying it?
This could apply equally to football, to clubs, associations, area codes, whatever.
Ego is the enemy.
“It is our own opinions that disturb us. Take away these opinions then, and resolve to dismiss your judgment about an act as if it were something grievous, and your anger is gone.” – Marcus Aurelius
Took a while to get back to this thought! So much has been going on recently!
So I saw a post by Steve Caballero over on Instagram, and it summed up perfectly the point I was trying to make in that last post…
People see the end result – they are the success and the skill obtained through patience, hard work, the grind, hustle, practise, planning, self sacrifice and so on.
And they ascribe it to ‘talent”
Is there a reason for this? Maybe.
Could it be because people know deep down inside what it takes to be a success, to be seen as a talented individual, and they don’t have it in them? Or they aren’t prepared to sacrifice so much to, in their eyes, “make it”
It’s all within our reach, as Marcus Aurelius once stated “Because a thing seems difficult for you, do not think it impossible for anyone to accomplish.”
I see this sentiment written in so many self help books. “Thinking positive thoughts doesn’t change anything” the reasoning being that PMA will leave you feeling “inadequate” if it doesn’t banish that negative energy, whatever it may be. So if positive thinking does not work, what does? Well their answer is accepting the negative thoughts, but then controlling your actions.
The essence of Positive Mental Attitude is the fact that we choose how we react to something and what our action is from that point on!
Sometimes I feel as though some writers think PMA is an outdated concept, and they have to deride it, dress it up in new clothes, and call it SUPRANORMALCOMBATIVEBRAINMODE! (by the way, SNCBM is all mine! No stealsies!)
Positive Mental Attitude is the concept that we are free to control our minds, and to direct emotions, moods, feelings, attitudes, habits etc. with the intention of making a positive choice every time. And if we fail, or make a mistake, we take it as a learning experience and move one!